Here’s a compendium of quotes found on this site

“Children rarely question our expectations; instead, they question their personal adequacy.”
Your Child’s Self-Esteem, Dorothy Corkille Briggs

“This is the world we live in
And these are the hands we’re given
Use them and let’s start trying
To make it a place worth living in.”
Land of Confusion, Phil Collins

“The attitudes of others toward a child’s capacities are far more important than his possession of particular traits. The fact of any handicap is not nearly so vital as the reactions toward it of those around him.”
Your Child’s Self-Esteem, Dorothy Corkille Briggs

“Children with hand differences whose hands function well usually adjust well.”
Children with Hand Differences: A Guide for Families Center for Limb Differences (1990)

“Even if the architecture of the hand is considerably disturbed, rarely will this be noticed by the casual observer if the hand is used to perform ordinary tasks in a normal manner.”
Robert Beasley, MD, “Cosmetic Considerations in Surgery of the Hand” (1971)

“To validate is to offer acceptance and feedback about the other person’s reality in a nonjudgmental way. To validate is to acknowledge and accept a person’s individual identity. When you validate a child, you allow her to share her feelings and thoughts without your judgment. You also reassure her, without questioning or disapproving, that her feelings are near the right nor wrong but are, in fact, her feelings. You show that you still accept her after she has shared her feelings, and you let her know that you respect her perception of the situation at that moment. You allow her to feel heard, acknowledged, understood, and accepted – not ridiculed or abandoned – based on the feelings she has expressed. Through validation, children learn that they are accepted and loved, no matter what feelings or thoughts they have. All the money in the world can’t buy for your child what validation can.”
The Power of Validation by Karyn Hall and Melissa Cook, 2012

“Alba held out her hand and he squeezed it with his left one.
Then she noticed that he was missing several fingers on his right hand,
but he explained that he could play guitar anyway,
because there is always a way to do what you want to do.”
— The House of the Spirits,
Isabel Allende, 236

“I wasn’t even sure why I was getting this medal, really.
No, that’s not true. I knew why.
It’s like people you see sometimes, and you can’t imagine what it would be like to be that person, whether it’s somebody in a wheelchair or somebody who can’t talk. Only, I know that I’m that person to other people, maybe to every single person in that whole auditorium.
To me, though, I’m just me. An ordinary kid.
But hey, if they want to give me a medal for being me, that’s okay. I’ll take it. I didn’t destroy a Death Star or anything like that, but I did just get through the fifth grade. And that’s not easy, even if you’re not me.”

— Wonder, R.J. Palacio

“Being the parent of a special-needs pet means living your life constantly poised on the edge of a double-edged sword. On the one hand, you become a fierce defender of the ways in which your little one is perfectly ordinary – all the things he or she can do that are just like what everyone else does. No need for any extra attention here, thank you very much. And yet, you never lose sight of how absolutely extraordinary that very ordinariness is, how difficult, remarkable, and rewarding that fight to be ‘just like everybody else’ has been.”

— Homer’s Odyssey, Gwen Cooper

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