Limb Difference

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Embracing Vulnerability: Journeying Toward Self-Acceptance

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On a recent retreat, I openly shared my experiences growing up with a visible physical difference and how it affected my sense of belonging. This openness about my hand allowed me to preempt questions, express my desire to be seen both as having – but not defined by – my disability, and ultimately feel more relaxed and connected. The positive responses from others showed how being vulnerable can foster trust and confidence.

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Mother’s Day Letter to my Mother

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I wrote this letter to my mother to share empathy for all that she has experienced raising a child with a hand difference and express my appreciation and gratitude for all that she has contributed to me over my life.

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Teaching Children How to Ask About Limb Differences

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Children need to be taught how to ask questions & connect with people who have visible differences and disabilities. We explore the two different kinds of questions and statements that people often ask and how they affect the listener.

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What NOT to say when your child is sad about their limb difference

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Many of us were conditioned to respond to children when they are sad in ways that aren’t the best for them. Some of the following responses are less helpful in the moment than using reflective listening and offering empathy. Many of us heard these from our families of origin. Knowing why they can be harmful can empower us.

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Preparing yourself for when your child feels SAD about their limb difference

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On social media, parents often share about the hard moments when their children feel sadness about their limb difference for the first time. Before offering suggestions for supporting children during these difficult moments, I wanted to examine this situation from the parents’ perspective. All children experience sadness about aspects of their life, but this situation is a little different. Let’s explore it!

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When your child realizes they have a limb difference

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This post initially was inspired by parents sharing about the moments that their children discovered or said something about their limb difference for the first time. I hope that this post will help parents anticipate what might be coming as well as support your child!

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Moments of Sweetness while raising a child with a limb difference

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All parents experience moments of sweetness while raising their children. As a new parent of a child with a limb difference, you may wonder what moments of sweetness you may experience that specifically relate to raising your child. Here are some that parents have shared over the years.

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Choosing High Quality Picture Books for Your Child

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There are many wonderful books for children written about characters with limb differences! As a parent, you want to choose books that align with and reinforce your values and steer clear of books that teach messages that you prefer to avoid.

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Highlights on Hands To Love Hand Camp

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Highlights of the 2023 Hands To Love Hand Camp weekend in Starke, Florida!

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Letter from a Parent to their Child with a Limb Difference

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Overhearing a parent talking to their child with a limb difference inspired me to think about what I would have liked to have heard as a child. Here it is in letter format.

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